Spreadsheet Detailing Husband’s Failed Attempts To Bed Wife Goes Viral

In the latest commentary on our TMI social media generation, a man's detailed spreadsheet chronicling his wife's constant refusal to make love with him (along with the reasons given) have made it to the Internet and caused a sensation. 

A Reddit user named  throwwwwaway29 over-shared the spreadsheet with the universe on Friday and it was quickly picked up by various websites over the weekend. Here's how she presented it under the headline "My husband [M26] sent a rude, argumentative email as I [F26] was on the way to the airport for a 10-day work trip. Now he has cut contact." in the "Relationships" section of Reddit:

Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. He's never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it's a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won't miss me for the 10 days I'm gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my "excuses", using verbatim quotes of why I didn't feel like having sex at that very moment. According to his ‘document', we've only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 "attempts" on his part.

Here is the accompanying "Sexcel" spreadsheet he put together:

sexcel

Much of the commentary seems to condemn the man for being whiny, obsessive and pouty for gong to the trouble of categorizing her ongoing rejection of his amorous advances. And I get that, the dude seems a bit single-focused here.

However, where is the condemnation of this woman turning to the Internet for help? There's clearly a communication problem in this relationship and this woman looks for advice from the sage and sound participants of the "relationship" section of Reddit?

She chooses to shame her long-suffering and obviously isolated husband on a public forum rather than turn to professionals for some assistance in her marriage? Why? Because she's going to get better help from Reddit users "GoingAllTheJay" and "JustWordsInYourHead" than from a trained therapist? Well, actually, those two had some pretty good advice for her. So I'm not going to judge them, but I am going to judge her.

Hey lady, step away from the social media, look your husband in the eye and have a conversation. Reddit is great, but complaining to the users there is not going to save your marriage … if that's what you're really trying to achieve.